Feature image from CYCLIX
I have been pregnant for seven months now and I’ve noticed that I get asked the same questions over and over and over again.
At every social event and party I go to, every time I leave the house and every time I go get coffee people say the same things.
At first, it was annoying.  Then I realised something incredible…
I was so wrapped up in being frustrated and angry, I didn’t realise I was surrounded by a whole community of people who were interested in my life and my pregnancy.  They just wanted everything to go well.
What people say…
You look gorgeous / glowing / radiant
What they really mean is - I see that you’re pregnant and it suits you.  I want to give you a compliment but I don’t have time to think of a specific one.  You might not actually look that great but they want to tell you something safe and positive.
What people say …
You’re really popped out haven’t you.
What they really mean is - I see you.  I see your belly and I am paying attention.  I am noticing you changing.  You mean enough to me for your pregnancy to matter.  Your pregnancy is going by so fast and I can’t believe you are this big already.
What people say …
Can I touch your belly?
What they are really mean is - I have never been pregnant before and I want to get closer to this mysterious thing. Â I want to get in on the action, I want to feel involved and get closer to your baby.
What people say…
Are you finding out the sex?
What they really mean is - I can’t think of any other questions to ask you, but I am still interested in your pregnancy - so let’s keep talking about it.
What people say…
When I was pregnant… / When I gave birth… / With my pregnancy…
What they really mean is - I miss being pregnant. Â I loved being pregnant and want to talk about my experiences with you. Â I want to share what I learnt with you so that all of my experience does not go to waste.
What people say…
Get an epidural!
What they really mean is - I got an epidural. Â I am really happy with my decision. Â It is my only birthing experience and I think you should do it just like me.